The Single Thing
August 28, 2017 § Leave a comment
Since getting married I’ve thought a lot about writing something to my single friends. I suppose every single-longer-than-she-wanted-to-be Christian wife has considered doing this, and I’m willing to bet that if you’re a single woman reading the blogs out there, you feel like ALL of them have done it . . . repeatedly.
Another one, really? Is it some kind of right of passage that you married people feel like you have to go through — write the blog to the still-single demographic that you were a part of, oh I dunno, five months ago?
I get it. I’ve had that thought. So how do I know that what I might have to say would be any good? Well, I don’t. But I do know that every time I pushed past those bitter feelings and read the words of women who had at last gotten their heart’s dearest wish, it helped.
Their disillusionment helped me keep perspective.
Their joy helped me remember that disillusionment doesn’t mean disappointment.
Their charges to be content in singleness — or I wouldn’t be content married either — helped me be obedient to God, and find all satisfaction in Him.
In 2013 I wrote my own blog on that last point, The Gift of a Gift Withheld. It was probably the single most important thing I ever internalized. No pun intended.
So I will continue to consider what, if anything, I have to say to my still-single friends from a recently-married nothing-figured-out perspective that could possibly be of encouragement.
One thing I can say right now: God’s wisdom is trustworthy!